First of all, my decision to start a blog was
never that serious. I lived alone, in a ghetto full of miscreants, surrounded by guys living a dog eat dog life because that was the only part of town I could afford the rent for a self-contained apartment. They will sleep with a girl today, pass her to the next neighbour and all of them would sit by my window to laugh about how stiff or eager she was in bed. Most times, I dragged a stool outside to listen to their sexual escapades because I was idle and lonely to an extent. A couple of times, one of them asked me, “Shebi that girl fresh pass the girl wey come last week?”
An eye opener for me was the day a naïve, 16 year old lost her virginity to one of them. I felt terrible as I watched her leave with her face bowed in subdued humiliation. My neighbour told me he was over with her.
“Abeg that smallie dey find relationship.” he said. I wished I warned her of what she was getting herself into the few times I saw her stopped by in her school uniform. In need of redemption, I decided to start a single girl blog where I can bash these guys anonymously. That was when I created my wordpress account. After writing six posts about myself, Naijasinglegirl blog became my fortress. I completely forgot about my feminist motives and that’s how the journey began.
On blogging anonymously, there are the pros and the cons. Regarding the former, I have lost out financially in many ways I’d rather not say. I have also turned down numerous invites to events because the organisers/hosts want me to appear as NSG and to be honest, I am not sure if the five minutes of fame would be worth it. Let’s take my job hunting escapades for instance, imagine me attending an interview and the recruiter says, “So this unemployed girl has finally reached our company. We better give her the job before she goes to that her blog to curse us.” There is also the issue of me attending an interview and bumping into my blog readers as candidates, all of them waiting to see how the drama queen will fvvh up, as usual. That is an embarrassing situation I am not ready to picture. It doesn’t mean I am proud to be associated with this blog or I am not grateful for the voice it has given me. I just don’t want a situation where I am walking on the road and married women start hiding their husbands in their handbags when they see ‘The Chairlady of all Nigerian Single Girls’ passing.
Truth is, I am a very conservative person. On two occasions, my seat partner in a public vehicle was reading NSG blog and I just maintained a straight face when I found out. Mrs Dicaprio, Dame, Kessysoft, Precious, Sogie, was that you? I liked your hair!
Someone from my BBM contacts has BCed me the link to my blog and I just smiled. A close friend in school called me to check out the blog and I laughed. My siblings don’t even know I have a writing talent, talk more of running a blog. I have written several blog posts in their presence unknown to them. That’s how’s discrete I am. Being faceless helps me write and express myself better.
To you reading this, you are awesome. I’m flattered each time my web developer tells me my blog commands one of the most loyal set of followers in blogsphere. I see all your comments telling me to post my picture but what will you say when you realise I am that girl that stops by the cotonou sellers at railway to try on a pair of shoes she fancies. I am that girl that wants to wear bathroom slippers to the next street because that is what I am comfortable in. I am that girl that picked her peanut from the tarred road to eat just because it fell at Banana Island, rich people road. I am that girl that frequent malls just to stare at others so I could get inspiration. I am that girl in that fancy restaurant that wants to eat rice with her hand when others are using cultlery. I am that girl that will sit and cross her legs in the arm chair when she arrives your office for the first time and the next ten minutes you turn to stare at her, her wig is off, her shoes are scattered about and she is lying on the couch. . . The list is endless. I am the female version of Tarzan. Do you really want to meet her?
I’m dying to have my own vlog channel but fame is not something I want. I just want money, lots of money. Lol. If I am having to put my dreams aside, I think you should bear with me for a little while.
I am making this post because lately, a lot of you have been telling me to let go of my anonymous cloak. I see scentmarlc also opened a fan page for me. Thank you very much. I feel so honoured.
I also have another announcement to make in my next post, till then, keep telling others to visit naijasinglegirlblog.
I love and appreciate all of you.
Thank you very much and have an awesome weekend.