The last time I boldly said I love you to someone of the opposite sex was in 2009. I met him in 2006 and on the evening we met, I told him I loved him too. It was love at first sight for both of us but it was true for the three years we were romantically involved. I cared deeply about him and I proved myself numerous times. He on the hand gave me no reasons to doubt him.
Over the years, I have felt what feels like love with other guys I met but spilling the words “I love you” doesn’t come easily because these are words I rarely mutter, especially to the opposite sex. I recently watched an episode in season 3 of Bing Bang Theory where Penny broke up with Lenon after he confessed the three letter word. It’s not that she didn’t have feelings for him, she felt love comes with a responsibility she wasn’t ready for. Same thing happened between Joe and Cecil in the last episode of The Flash I saw.
This is bigger than harlequin novels or Hollywood TV Series but I have noticed we in this part of the world have little or no regard for love. Here it is scripted; a password to get in between those legs, to trick, to obtain cash or material gifts, to manipulate…it’s been abused and trampled upon. It’s hard to tell who genuinely means it because those who swore by it and made us believers are the same people who inflicted so much pain that we lost faith in love.
For heavens sake, please do not say it because society has programmed our minds to say it after Date-3 or because people are supposed to say it when they are about to lean in for a kiss or there’s a certain rulebook that states it can also be uttered to people we feel sexually attracted to.
Love is a promise. It does not lie. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
That’s how God loves.
That’s how to love.